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. player . 40 percent of all women have experienced violence at the hands of their partners. they've been verbally abused beaten and raped. some have been subject to acid attacks or burned or mutilated. others have been murdered. and.
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i want to thank you i. told her i was the one for one of my early childhood was very difficult i never knew my father my mother raised me by herself and that was hard. one to answer until the 5th grade i was a good student in 1999 i received a scholarship for secondary school. and that's when i got my 1st marriage proposal . telling local office of well i was physically mature for my age and people used to
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look down on me. they said i was born out of wedlock and had to marry quickly to save my honor they said that if i didn't i'd end up just like my mother. what he did the. leverage over little. and put it so it was it so it took 3 years they kept telling her to marry me are you still of course she refused she said i was too young and she wanted to send me to school a little it. was. going to bring the little girl her way in the world to be a product of the local there were lots of marriage negotiations but my mother was still opposed to the idea that the prospective husbands got angry and threatened us . they said if i can't marry her i'll tell her. i was married when i was 14 i didn't know anything about men or intimacy or starting a fan. only political move in and we.
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go out there. you have chicken darks you always slaughter the one that looks the most mature. so that's how it was with me. thank. you. for your kind i. thank you for what i'm here so i was one of them because one day my husband came home and said he'd run out of money . he wanted me to take out a micro credit loan i said i had no idea how to do that because i knew nothing about banks. from. bottom mobile t.v. said my mother should do it. we had electrical cables hanging
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on the wall all over our house. and when i talked back to him. who you know he flew into a rage and pulled down one of the cables he threw me onto the bed and doubled up the cable he was holding. one generous little one and he beat me as hard as he could. i begged him to stop i prayed to a lot. but my husband kept pounding away so i had very long hair at that time and every time he hit me he pulled my hair again and again. he tracked my hair down to my hips he slammed his elbows into my hips and back he beat me with a stick and kicked me. in
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the west african country of binny and nearly one 5th of all females are subjected to genital mutilation. most girls are married against their will after they start menstruating at around the age of 12. many run away from their husbands and end up living on the streets before turning to prostitution. or. wrong. it was just. for. a nun mianyang if i wasn't forced to marry my husband did early on he tried to seduce me but i stopped him so he told his mother that i didn't want him to get her parents to make me marry her or i'll drink poison him and kill myself. why would you quit but my mother refused then his mother fell on her knees in front of me when she was
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quite old and i told her that i didn't want to marry her son when you are also welcome see she said that he was her only child and asked me at least to pretend that i loved him. not even through the actual words my mother said that the woman had put a curse on me and all the people shouldn't behave like that in front of younger people receive so i decided to marry him anyway she had put a curse on me and noisome would be seen but i think i. was. i was. one of. the says when i was 16 i got pregnant for the 1st time though my husband and i moved to the city of para kuharich london but we couldn't live with anyone in his family. so i stayed with
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a friend of hers and my husband was violent right from the start he scolded humiliated and physically abused me even when i was pregnant. where home he'd be when she beat me the day before i gave birth. when the baby was born there were marks on his body where my husband had beaten me. you could see the imprint of his hands the baby was in great pain as soon as you touched him he'd start to scream now walk. me down. i don't know much you know much the midwife felt really sorry for me. she told my mother to go to the police because she knew how much she had suffered because of me if you can do all that my mother said she couldn't do that. because it would lead to a divorce and that would ruin everything. i . did that it. would be
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yeah yeah our answer was tell. them how but that will be crucial in the book called and it's in the book of genesis chapter 2 verse $24.00 it says that god 1st created man and called him adam . then he took a rib from adam and created a verse. and created eve is in itself. the bible says god gave adam all 30 over 85 over the woman from the creation that this authority was not created by adam but by god himself. not us and what women should just be quiet is the man who makes the decisions fight . for gentlemen women are stupid. if you are married you know that already.
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although when i get home i shouldn't have to tell my wife to wash my dirty clothes absolutely not my clothes should be already washed and dried so i can wear them right away. i don't want to have to argue about it. inventing the desh almost all females are married against their will while they're still children. more than half of all married bangladeshi women say they've been subjected to domestic abuse. there are no laws to protect them from this kind of violence. like. a mobile no mother no matter how does the how did says that muslim girls over the
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age of 10 must be segregated from the rest of society and they must also cover their bodies. the entire body must be covered including the head in the face that's what it says in the koran. no part of a woman's body must be visible to others he still doesn't. only husbands are allowed to see their wives uncovered. some sort of world and women off the beaten from talking to anyone except their husbands. unless the husband gives his permission. those are the rules of purdah. the. women are not allowed to go out in public without their husbands. or if a woman has children they must go with her. she's not allowed to go out by herself . you know holly to.
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fill a certain word don't i look i'm serious i didn't have a child for 3 years. that's why my husband physically abused me. you'd often beat me hard to push my head under the bed and pound my back and box i was absolutely worn out both physically and mentally. so we spent almost all my mother's money on medical examinations. and those tests shows that i could technically have children. it was my husband who was infertile. but the doctors also pointed out that i was much too young to get pregnant. the physical abuse continued my husband wouldn't give me any food for 7 or 8 days at a time my mother came to visit once and found me crying outside behind the house so i soon divorced my husband and lived with my mother for
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a year. where from but also what it was was it was. 11. i. was there but i'm a collector and later my aunt offered me a new marriage proposal she said the man was ok and well. at that time i had no one to take care of me no father or brother set up with models out i wasn't even 18 yet and i got married for the 2nd time. to support my future husband was 45 years old after the wedding i discovered that this man had serious mental and physical problems but if. he started we couldn't work couldn't take care of himself if.
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i don't improve the when i 1st saw him and person i fainted and i didn't wake up for 5 hours. it. was quite alarming he slept with me whenever he wanted them up there i told myself that this was just part of being his wife but it was awful so i got my body felt like it was on fire but i couldn't tell anyone. it's ha's warm so i just held my breath as if i was dead for. they always thought that when it came to sex he was insatiable. he wanted it all
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the time. when he penetrated me it felt terrible but i couldn't say anything. for the public he demanded sex every day whenever he felt like it but he always took me by force for example while i was cooking in the kitchen. the in-laws would come to visit and he drag me into another broom and have sex while he was and saying. this was going democratic republic of congo has been plagued by violence for more than 2 decades. a total of half a 1000000 women have been raped. and large numbers of women have been kidnapped and never seen again. that they broke into their house and stole everything when they were out of control i
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screamed please don't kill my children. they asked where the children's father was around. and i told them he's not here. but why did they ordered me to find him and bring him over right away and when he came some of them raised their knives and threatened to stop me. they pointed their guns at us. they grabbed me in the middle of the night tied me up and threw me out signed on they were yelling the whole time. they got their knives out and trying to kill me i thought they would kill me i didn't say anything. i just kept crying. but we've been. around they came into the house and going on last whether i knew where to find some young girls i refused to tell them. so they beat me up
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one of them punched me in the eye and someone said they should kill me but another one said that they were going to take the women into the forest and hand them over to the men who'd been asking for them. as it were. but by then we got there they came to the house and pounded on the door they shouted get up you idiot i could hear the boots pounding on the ground. i said to myself the church of jesus would be one of them told me to get up and stab me with a knife. i screamed oh god why didn't you. got her out of there they stopped me here and here and here. well. i found myself leading. and i kept screaming. when i collapsed on the floor because. we're not out here. drag me to my feet
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i'm tied me up. and i passed out because i lost so much blood. i was still bleeding and they kept stabbing me here and here it's. like you crying oh jesus they just left me lying there i can't remember what happened after that. i'm not putting the. amount 1 that. i've been able to. get back. from the fact that she's my property i hope that we'll have a good life but if she starts behaving badly even though i gave a cow to have parents nothing out of the deal. with i don't pollute ruth and if she goes somewhere without my permission i can call her my wife and. get
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there because it's. full every human makes my bed the same way. the difference is in the way they make love with him if you go into the village and have good sex with a woman you can learn new techniques. but if you try them out on your wife she called you a male hole. with a good woman has to accept the way that you make love so that you don't stop chasing other women consumable with a number of different kind of woman express a sexual desire openly she's not allowed to talk about her feelings would mean a man can tell a woman he wants sex but a woman in contrast demand for it and. i think i see. russia was a fellow. in the democratic republic of congo women do twice as much work as men on average. but they have no opportunity to earn their own money or to acquire
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property. i love letters. i. think. that way. but. i doubt that i would i.
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think i i. think. i'm going maybe i hustled and and i had nothing yet doubtful now but i got some food every once in a while i. slept on of the floor just. as soon as he come home he'd start beating me and yeah especially when he wanted to sleep with me and i didn't feel like it was so wise that if i had sex with him one day and then the next and the night saying i'm tired he beat me on the 3rd day you know that's right. mom which i will have to you know whenever i saw him i panicked you know what i see are the new you're so afraid that your heart races and you bang your head against the wall. my dogs myself who you were really afraid of almost all will think you
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know how i wasn't allowed to talk to anyone else i couldn't have fun with anyone i couldn't go outside to talk to people and that's what he kept threatening me and then he beat me you know he was violent we got you but really we going to see mean that's when if you hold me one time he showed up at the apartment and asked me why were you outside with the neighbors how dare you i don't leave you here to talk to people. and then you punch me in the face when you who. are more vulnerable more. put. that down get out that there's no you. see. i. wolde imo. right now the digital bonus in the another time he beat me while i was bathing my infant son who had just been circumcised he smacked me in the forehead while my husband was beating me the child slipped out of my hands and fell into
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a bucket which he continued to beat me he pounded me with the bucket until it was completely bent out of shape to give us that you want all. female i wasn't wearing any clothes no shoes nothing i walked out of the apartment. and went to the police station. i screamed please help me my husband followed me and kept insulting me. that i can let you have your last 6. 0 yes i thank the police to help me when i asked them to come back home with me so i could pack up my things but they said. if there was nothing they could do if the police don't take action how can we get men to change their behavior so let's see. if you give women all the freedom they want they won't be able to handle it they
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have no morals and they cause trouble. some people say that independent women are prostitutes. procedure you. don't ever know. if you beat your wife so hard that she needs you you've got to have a good reason. if you find your wife in your home with another man it hurts and you've got to put a stop to it. going to the other woman you don't want to do so you beat the living daylights out of her and leave her lying on the floor that's what you should do if you catch your wife sleeping with another man. window but. you can't throw a man out of his house while the women have houses for i don't know so men have the right to criticize. what they don't yell no but listen. to the old guy men don't want other men to see their wives naked even if she's outside during mating we don't want strangers to see that oh yeah if a man finds his wife in the bushes he might suspect that she's having sex with
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another guy why when he's a man. and he can sleep with someone else's wife he will. oh yeah he does that because he thinks he must dominate or. that men also cheat on their spouses but i wanted to get. the democratic republic of congo is a major supplier of all 10 or which contains the element 10 to one this element is widely used in the manufacture of personal electronic devices. congo's coltan mining industry is controlled by. rebels who use profits from sales of the war to finance their military operations thank. god was. was.
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one of the it was never. going to do editing it is only going to win those men were filthy animals. they raped us. if we didn't want to have sex with them they took us by force. they tore off our clothes i may just do things that we didn't want to do. they spat on us you can't imagine how awful these people were. and when i 1st saw them my heart sank and kept beating faster and faster. it was like i'd seen a lion coming out of the jungle yelling. that hung over shoes of a couple they forced the women to lie on the ground in rows. one woman right next to the other had already and then they raped as right there in public. they moved from one woman to another talk about god and. some women covered their
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face out of shame and the men beat them and you can of them and yelled at them don't cover your eyes the choice of everyone who did was beaten. up and it was she and we were forced to watch all that and it enabled. but only on my lower what would hook they bring in a boy an order him to have sex with his mother. they said that if he refused they'd kill him but we've seen a lot of suffering so much. before. the rebels ordered us to pick up some sticks. they said that one of the men was going to be killed that day and we were going to do it. they weren't going to shoot that man or stabbed him to death. they said that we were going to beat him to death with our sticks. the rebel surrounded the victim and ordered him not to cry.
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they said that if we cried they'd shoot us we started beating him and kept beating him until he was dead to me. yes yes i have surely not possible to kill one day my husband attacked me with absent anything with. my youngest child was 3 years old at the time. might finish cooking and washing the dishes i went outside to dump some dirty water gee yeah when i came back where the child said daddy's lying on
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the bed under the musty tonette way i'm talking i didn't believe him when i looked in there he wants me but i was terrified because he had this wild look on his face his eyes were glowing he looked like a monster. attend my back on him to tend to the child that's when my husband attacked me to which i fell down he tried to force my mouth open he pressed his fingers into my cheeks while i clamped my teeth together. and i cried out like a sheet he took a can of liquid and pulled the contents into my mouth while i felt a burning sensation and i wanted to scream. but i kept quiet i mean because if i tried to speak i'd probably swallow the acid he actually thought i had swallowed it and it was going to burn my insides. then he put on some gloves and port the rest of the acid over my body. he dropped it into my eyes and
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the rest of my face. covered my whole body with it i was lying motionless on the floor then my husband left the apartment and locked the door from the outside you know at dinner would be to have your watch. be. delayed my mouth felt like it was on fire i don't know the pain was unbearable. to treat but yes started to fall out to eat because it was covered with acid our jack my clothes were shredded sore so i had to walk around as nearly 90 and some medical a few weeks. to to my shoulder body felt like it
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was burning then and there was more of it will. come you know you know the police arrested my husband but later let him go. he's been housing me and the children and we have nowhere else to go. you know where we live if he were caught. he's always driving around the neighborhood looking for a mate and then i'm nervous all the time because i'm afraid i do i'm always afraid even when i leave the house during the day or my mother doesn't want me to go out alone so when i do go out to us i always take 2 other people with my body.
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is that evoke even maci want to kill me and my children and i can't even go out to the toilet alone at night because of him so vividly i have to wake up my sister or brother to go along with me. but my husband is always hanging around the neighborhood that the. maze of i'm not safe here tonight for my children. he follows the kids all the time and threatens them with the that's just terrible bad to bring on that was still afraid and because of him we're not safe here. or did not possibly think.
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i already was shomer though he kept having sex with me monoliths my life as a living hell of the one i have they're going on and it was like my family who literally changed the marriage had thrown me into a lake of fire. sometimes i thought it would be better to take poison or hang myself. but i didn't. my mother says that if i had been a good wife my marriage wouldn't have gone so wrong and now it was my fate to live alone. she said that if i had really wanted to be married i would not have left my husband. when i saw that my daughter had been badly abused i decided to take her to my home but after about 2 weeks some people came unfortunate back to her husband. that i knew then i talked to some village
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elders and told them what had happened. i listened to their would find soon decided i was not going to give her back. there is no justice in our society that we have to live with that if i complain people say that my daughter is a bad woman and i'm just making things worse my limited about how to fight the. law and that is how the women have to deal with the huge amount of stress caused by their husbands and in the words. of their history if they have no education. they have to rely completely on those people. when they were seen and want to get another letter when the girls go to school the boys harass them along the way. to late edition that happens a lot these days and that's where
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a lot of girls don't go to school. where the only things that they're afraid that they'll lose their own are because they're being harassed by boys. invent carty culture it's impossible for boys to lose their own nothing. that isn't there because it only happens to women on it. and when it does they become outcasts in society rather than out there with the family but there's some other way that daddy . cut it out. i mean that out. there oh no. i really am 7. what. i thought. of.
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you. today i'm not busy today i can talk about what happened to me. i was unable to do that before. i couldn't even talk to myself about it so long but now i can talk to anyone anywhere at the market for example but for our next hour i want to get something i have a lot more courage how so much money as how. i'm going to i've been able to climb out of that swamp i think i've come a long way thanks to the people at the archie project. they helped me make some changes in my life and i think i've done really well i want to see in some of those how you're going to talk to you know the most on that stuff to talk to me like a political football fan to see if you got a balloon to get somebody. that.
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i. just want. to. play. i. think you did. the. right shin more. when we got here i learned that my son. had died. and
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we went through some really hard times. and then a little later. my daughter was kidnapped and. they didn't know what to do i had to live in the countryside life was terribly hard that's all i can say yet my husband left me and moved to. he stayed there for a long time because he didn't want to take me back. before that he and i had a good life we got along but when these problems turned up his personality changed he wanted to shut me out of his life and he claimed that i supported the hutu rebels. because. one of them. to.
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the middle man don't call me if i don't know where to go i live outdoors in the countryside. i have no husband and no children and without them and they killed my child. so when and so now i said tara loan. i have no place to live i'm worried and miserable. and i have to deal with a lot of different problems we have to look for food with clothes and a place to sleep we don't have a proper home we just live outdoors. like the birds. and calling. here i have my children made fun of me and avoided me. they said that i wasn't
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human anymore when young i asked myself how my children could treat me like that i had been a drunk and i wondered what my parents would say when they found out about it and that would happen again my husband was doing the devil's work when he started spreading those rumors about me. and my children believed him that i give him some food but he refused it and he said he didn't want to be served by someone who lived in the forest. for me poor children no longer thought of me as their mother and that it was like they thought that i was dead. when i laugh that you know as any of. these events left scars on our hearts. and to this day when i hear a noise i cannot come a door or a can falling over i'm frightened my heart starts beating faster i feel awful my heart is beating faster because i'm afraid there's something awful will
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happen again. you know it's hard to pin to try to get a lot of these experiences have also affected our mental health when on the one hand i feel fine right now but later i might start crying because i feel threatened . it's like i've gone crazy i'm king of worship she. had a little bad boy i did the old you know i was the way i. am i'm no one i'm often well i mustn't when school starts you're going to have to learn how to raise guinea pigs while you give one to each child in your family. there's plenty of grass here for the guinea pigs to eat. the kids can feed them if you have to pay school fees you can sell 3 guinea pigs if you haven't got enough food you can eat them yeah yeah i eat guinea pig meat myself. if i lose all my personal you know my with my money i mean began my been there. you know.
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the make up on we work with the cement support group but their families breeders or credos things we meet on the 1st and last day of each month and we talk about how to make our lives better ways each of us donates $500.00 francs to a special fund who knows that and we give the money to women so you've just had a child or someone who's just got married or who we also give money to the relatives of the people who have diabetes is it with this is just so. it is it was it. was. a man i was thinking that well one thing that when i was. ok with. that i know. that i was going to end up. going to
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you to get you to help. me out a way oh my god why did you worry about my developed walk. down the. pike. small projects can and simply be changing. the people making it possible eco africa fantastic right tried that as they set out to safety environments. that had learned from one another. and work together for a better future for. 30 minutes on t.w. . the plastic list is it harmful to humans.
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more and more micro particles in the ocean are entering our food chain. to the folks not only is it hurting the environment but is it also bad for our company. german scientists warn the alarmism to live. tomorrow today in 90 minutes on d w. how about taking a few risks you could even take a chance on was. raring to. go don't expect a happy ending. the church was struck last. i
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