i spoke with ashley seger, a therapist. ashley, thank you for coming in. we surprised at the research? >> i was not as surprised as you would think because i really feel emotional stress is so important, so impactful on our bodies it makes perfect sense conflict, especially if it is pervasive within your relationship, it would have an impact on your body. >> how much can pervasive conflict mean? major rows every day or just a couple a week? >> that was one of the important things in the study, when you read it, it really does not define frequent conflict. and before some couples once a week as frequent. for others it could be 10 times per day as frequent. it's hard to know what the pervasive conflict looks like. >> meaning every couple has a threshold of tolerance. >> exactly. >> why do men seem to suffer a more medically from the stress of fights than women? >> it such a complicated topic to know whether it is something it is male versus female, whether it is something that boys and girls are taught about how to deal with conflict, but i think that men te