1 00:00:17,67 --> 00:00:21,13 Hello and welcome to a community forum a community service of canned T.V. 2 00:00:21,43 --> 00:00:26,48 I'm your host got enough joining me today are Trishala point Ruben Del and Dave's 3 00:00:26,49 --> 00:00:30,99 are Koski to talk about family rescue welcome and welcome to the three of you it's 4 00:00:31,00 --> 00:00:34,06 great to have you here thank you maybe we could start talking 5 00:00:34,07 --> 00:00:37,62 a little bit about what family rescue is I know that you're 6 00:00:37,63 --> 00:00:38,75 a board member I know you've been 7 00:00:38,76 --> 00:00:44,31 a very involved who is going to tell me. I can start right here on you know rescue 8 00:00:44,42 --> 00:00:48,33 and I think violence organization we often complemented services to victims and 9 00:00:48,34 --> 00:00:53,47 survivors of domestic violence and I think Chicago and much problem area excellent 10 00:00:53,48 --> 00:00:56,16 and how long have you been in existence in one thousand nine hundred one that's in 11 00:00:56,17 --> 00:01:01,28 our area anniversary and congratulations and there thirty years of working in 12 00:01:01,29 --> 00:01:05,88 domestic violence and it's interesting Trish that you're here company by two of the 13 00:01:05,89 --> 00:01:11,20 male supporters grand supporters of the organization is a board member is 14 00:01:11,21 --> 00:01:17,53 a sponsor of one of the biggest events. And what what's what attracts you gentleman 15 00:01:18,07 --> 00:01:24,79 to the issue of domestic violence in our city. I would say my involvement 16 00:01:25,29 --> 00:01:30,99 began in eighty nine and ninety eight. The gentleman named by the name of Pat I can 17 00:01:30,100 --> 00:01:36,45 Eddie who is now an honorary board member of the family rescue was was working with 18 00:01:36,46 --> 00:01:43,41 the charity at that time or prior to that time eighty seven eighty eight and I saw 19 00:01:43,42 --> 00:01:43,56 through 20 00:01:43,57 --> 00:01:46,71 a company newsletter that he was involved in this and they were looking for additional 21 00:01:46,72 --> 00:01:49,44 people to help and I felt like it was 22 00:01:49,45 --> 00:01:53,96 a very worthwhile cause I always felt they had to if weather being your own little 23 00:01:53,97 --> 00:01:57,96 neighborhood or your larger community or the city that you live in if people's 24 00:01:58,76 --> 00:02:04,85 family lives and. Their their bond or their family was strong that those 25 00:02:04,86 --> 00:02:09,21 neighborhoods were generally in any good shape that their communities were were did 26 00:02:09,22 --> 00:02:13,87 well and people knew each other and it was good for everybody involved so it looked 27 00:02:13,88 --> 00:02:16,83 like something I would like to be involved with and I went to 28 00:02:16,84 --> 00:02:21,68 a few meetings to start at that time and it was really kind of an exciting period 29 00:02:21,69 --> 00:02:22,01 there was 30 00:02:22,02 --> 00:02:27,74 a transitional housing building going up for the first time and that was the big 31 00:02:27,75 --> 00:02:32,17 project and we got some help from the Chicago Cubs wives have 32 00:02:32,18 --> 00:02:36,29 a charity organization so they help us run our the main fund raiser that year. 33 00:02:37,30 --> 00:02:40,47 Would coincide with the Cubs actually winning the division which doesn't come very 34 00:02:40,48 --> 00:02:46,70 often very soon but. Really you know they remain I don't know what. I mean 35 00:02:47,59 --> 00:02:54,07 how I was. So that that was 36 00:02:54,93 --> 00:02:57,67 obviously a really fun thing to be involved with and 37 00:02:57,68 --> 00:03:00,02 a lot of the Cubs players came to the event and it was 38 00:03:00,03 --> 00:03:06,05 a you know was fantastic. To get the word out about the charity and from that point 39 00:03:06,06 --> 00:03:11,32 on it kept growing and growing my involvement on the board ended at the end of one 40 00:03:11,33 --> 00:03:17,16 nine hundred ninety and I stayed in touch with the organization. From that point 41 00:03:17,17 --> 00:03:22,08 forward and then you know his morphed into something much greater and larger today 42 00:03:22,09 --> 00:03:27,90 but it that the cause itself I can't think of anything much more important and much 43 00:03:27,91 --> 00:03:34,68 more worthwhile and. You know if his take on it but I'm sure he feels very 44 00:03:34,69 --> 00:03:41,46 similarly. Well I think I was sort of hooked by. By the fact that the current 45 00:03:41,47 --> 00:03:48,40 president David David often burn knew that that was my community that family 46 00:03:48,41 --> 00:03:55,19 rescues facilities are in. Their off their office and their 47 00:03:55,20 --> 00:03:59,67 central offices are in. In what used to be such 48 00:03:59,68 --> 00:04:05,56 a cargo community bank I believe so all of it is kind of just echoing some of what 49 00:04:05,71 --> 00:04:12,71 David said. The it kind of draws you draws 50 00:04:12,72 --> 00:04:18,83 me back to the neighborhood where I grew up. I went to grade school high school 51 00:04:19,72 --> 00:04:25,76 and then I've stayed in Chicago the whole time I've been on the board for about ten 52 00:04:25,77 --> 00:04:31,74 years. I'm going to get deeper here I want to get deeper not tell you why I think 53 00:04:31,75 --> 00:04:36,12 so many of us when we think about domestic violence we think about it being 54 00:04:36,13 --> 00:04:41,74 a women's problem and I think that we tend to think of women working in the name. 55 00:04:41,77 --> 00:04:47,22 And that's run by women to help the women in their shelters and women and there's 56 00:04:47,23 --> 00:04:52,09 a lot of myths around that first of all we I mean we know not all victims of 57 00:04:52,10 --> 00:04:58,69 domestic violence are women but it's also really impactful to see you 58 00:04:58,70 --> 00:05:03,01 gentlemen here and I would love if I can help you to articulate because I can feel 59 00:05:03,02 --> 00:05:08,50 it's in your eyes. What is what what is compelling you know you said it's your 60 00:05:08,51 --> 00:05:12,66 neighborhood in your neighborhood there's probably drugs there's probably gangs 61 00:05:12,67 --> 00:05:17,21 there's probably unemployment there's probably people with physical disabilities 62 00:05:17,22 --> 00:05:20,40 there's probably all kinds of wonderful causes why this one. 63 00:05:24,01 --> 00:05:29,91 Well you know. Well frankly it touched our family 64 00:05:30,79 --> 00:05:31,57 and it's 65 00:05:31,58 --> 00:05:38,35 a chapter. That is never quite closed. But but it did when I 66 00:05:38,36 --> 00:05:42,86 was when I was when I was very young. At that point there was 67 00:05:42,87 --> 00:05:49,29 a family rescue but but. There was an Hispanic 68 00:05:49,74 --> 00:05:50,57 families there was 69 00:05:50,58 --> 00:05:58,04 a strong network that that seems to constantly be there. Or 70 00:05:58,08 --> 00:06:05,00 certainly seemed very strong at the time. Strong enough to to to really see any my 71 00:06:05,01 --> 00:06:11,50 mom through that and and get us on our way so so there was that but 72 00:06:11,88 --> 00:06:18,74 I have to say that. All of it is really much brighter in the sense that being 73 00:06:18,75 --> 00:06:23,50 drawn to to South Chicago is actually a very good thing and 74 00:06:23,51 --> 00:06:29,84 a very positive thing I think we're here and doing you know. They have their their 75 00:06:29,88 --> 00:06:35,13 domestic March which happens in the fall I'll tell them in the fall when you're in 76 00:06:35,47 --> 00:06:36,38 and then getting 77 00:06:36,39 --> 00:06:41,74 a chance to walk through the neighborhood. With everyone you know go past the house 78 00:06:41,74 --> 00:06:48,59 . One of the houses we live in another story. So it's and we've also been 79 00:06:48,60 --> 00:06:55,54 drawn that there in terms of our work when. We build schools and in the 80 00:06:55,55 --> 00:07:02,48 neighborhood and clinics. So. I really appreciate your willingness to answer and 81 00:07:02,49 --> 00:07:06,12 one of the things that points out to us and you can probably tell us the situation 82 00:07:06,13 --> 00:07:10,70 is the domestic violence knows no boundaries that it doesn't matter what race you 83 00:07:10,71 --> 00:07:12,58 are doesn't matter what income level of those 84 00:07:12,59 --> 00:07:15,54 a man or how much education doesn't matter if you're 85 00:07:15,59 --> 00:07:20,01 a member of the board it doesn't matter you know whoever you can be it's something 86 00:07:20,02 --> 00:07:26,90 that can touch and does touch all of our of the strata of our society. What else do 87 00:07:26,91 --> 00:07:30,91 you want me to know how many people are you are you helping every year we serve I 88 00:07:30,92 --> 00:07:34,96 average about eight hundred and it doesn't you know that including Is that 89 00:07:34,100 --> 00:07:41,62 a three hundred people or family all people allow people and women 90 00:07:41,66 --> 00:07:48,09 children with one of only two shelters and not just I said found shelter as and 91 00:07:48,10 --> 00:07:48,66 general and 92 00:07:48,67 --> 00:07:52,73 a city of Chicago that allowed teenage boys to come clean and mothers and shelter. 93 00:07:53,88 --> 00:07:58,44 So where do they go in the other cases where what happens to those boys they would 94 00:07:58,45 --> 00:07:59,01 try to find 95 00:07:59,02 --> 00:08:05,69 a family member for them to stay with us shelter for them to go to that allows. And 96 00:08:05,70 --> 00:08:12,17 they may have to stay with me but the abuser. I think. That well where one of those 97 00:08:12,18 --> 00:08:15,58 shelters that allows them to come here to the family together is the trauma the 98 00:08:15,59 --> 00:08:21,52 family and I saw an excellent So you're supporting eight hundred people in the city 99 00:08:21,53 --> 00:08:25,42 of Chicago who are living with you know when there's crime in the street it's one 100 00:08:25,43 --> 00:08:29,18 thing but when there's crime inside your house and there's violence inside your 101 00:08:29,19 --> 00:08:35,41 house you have no safe place and the in family rescue is helping so many people 102 00:08:35,49 --> 00:08:39,57 what's what's Chicago doing to help you do what do you it would be 103 00:08:39,58 --> 00:08:45,19 a degree to get to keep yourselves afloat. Well 104 00:08:45,23 --> 00:08:51,91 a golf outing. Oh yeah you know. Running You know I don't see it 105 00:08:51,92 --> 00:08:56,12 and many of the we do have several events in the golf outing we do 106 00:08:56,13 --> 00:09:00,31 a bowing of that we receive them very strong support from the foundation of 107 00:09:00,32 --> 00:09:05,79 corporate funders individual funders. So we're out but we're just always looking 108 00:09:05,80 --> 00:09:10,72 for new avenues new supporters absolutely So tell us about the golf outing for 109 00:09:10,73 --> 00:09:17,24 example when where who. Is going to be the fourteenth 110 00:09:17,53 --> 00:09:22,34 Annual this is going to be an Indian leagues resort. And that's going to be August 111 00:09:22,35 --> 00:09:26,26 twenty sixth and it is really a fun time it is 112 00:09:26,27 --> 00:09:29,47 a launch before golf starts it is 113 00:09:29,48 --> 00:09:34,50 a shotgun. A start where we start Of same time and it's 114 00:09:34,51 --> 00:09:39,80 a scramble for man so the teams basically combine the shots to score at the end of 115 00:09:39,81 --> 00:09:44,75 the day now there are some nice gimmicks and tricks you can use to make your score 116 00:09:44,76 --> 00:09:49,78 better which a lot of golf outings use you time and it's 117 00:09:49,79 --> 00:09:55,08 a scramble for man so the teams basically combine the shots to score at the end of 118 00:09:55,09 --> 00:10:00,04 the day now there are some nice gimmicks and tricks you can use to make your score 119 00:10:00,05 --> 00:10:00,82 better which 120 00:10:01,58 --> 00:10:06,43 a lot of golf outings you fits in that string it is Collins that is made. 121 00:10:08,40 --> 00:10:15,30 Even though you have. So you know there is the I will 122 00:10:15,31 --> 00:10:18,93 say that there are good golfers out there but last year the the winning score I 123 00:10:18,94 --> 00:10:22,77 believe was a sixteen under par which would not have been attainable without 124 00:10:22,78 --> 00:10:23,60 a lot of string and 125 00:10:23,61 --> 00:10:27,85 a lot of modeling and so even though we have some good players there's 126 00:10:27,86 --> 00:10:34,32 a lot of little gamesmanship there goes into into the round but it is it's been 127 00:10:34,36 --> 00:10:40,29 it's been great fun and then there is a dinner and. Afterwards And there's 128 00:10:40,30 --> 00:10:46,82 a lot of nice things. To bid on and basically that all around great day we've had 129 00:10:46,83 --> 00:10:49,76 good success with the weather in the last couple of years which is always 130 00:10:49,77 --> 00:10:55,40 a big help and I would say right at this moment we are still looking for some 131 00:10:55,44 --> 00:11:02,31 additional sponsorship and. One of the you know. One of the big sponsor 132 00:11:02,32 --> 00:11:06,14 items as someone who pays for the the refreshments on the corps which we call the 133 00:11:06,15 --> 00:11:07,32 card sponsor which would be 134 00:11:07,33 --> 00:11:11,68 a great one if we could could add that still people have advertising at different 135 00:11:12,40 --> 00:11:17,51 boxes so they get their company name out and so forth so there are things we do 136 00:11:17,52 --> 00:11:22,64 need help there's no question about it it is. The you know the economy being what 137 00:11:22,65 --> 00:11:25,72 it is there's definitely been a gradual or 138 00:11:25,97 --> 00:11:31,86 a slowing of people's resources you know directed towards various. Charities 139 00:11:31,87 --> 00:11:33,15 because they're being asked by quite 140 00:11:33,16 --> 00:11:38,76 a few charities and maybe their their economic situation isn't the same as it might 141 00:11:38,77 --> 00:11:44,25 have been five years ago so we are obviously here but we appreciate the chance to 142 00:11:44,26 --> 00:11:49,13 get the word out about it but we do we do need some help of anybody is interested 143 00:11:49,14 --> 00:11:49,92 in doing 144 00:11:49,93 --> 00:11:53,81 a really good thing and coming to the term and to have fun as well it would be 145 00:11:53,82 --> 00:11:59,53 fantastic it will be information I'm sure on the screen as to the website and where 146 00:11:59,54 --> 00:12:01,76 you can get the information to be 147 00:12:01,77 --> 00:12:06,12 a sponsor if you choose to do so or if you just choose to come out and play you 148 00:12:06,13 --> 00:12:06,79 know that that's 149 00:12:07,03 --> 00:12:11,37 a fantastic thing to do with the fee structure is on that website so it is 150 00:12:11,38 --> 00:12:14,95 a great day it's super fun your chance to win things are just to have 151 00:12:14,96 --> 00:12:19,90 a good time and maybe meet some new people which is always good but is Trisha and I 152 00:12:19,91 --> 00:12:22,36 were talking before hand it would be fantastic if we did 153 00:12:22,37 --> 00:12:27,25 a few more people to take the larger pieces of what we you know sponsor items and 154 00:12:27,35 --> 00:12:32,32 see if we can can have this year be equal to or better than the years we've had in 155 00:12:32,33 --> 00:12:37,00 the past. And I think one of the things about being able to come out and do the 156 00:12:37,01 --> 00:12:40,40 golf outing is knowing that you're you know you're having fun but that you're 157 00:12:40,41 --> 00:12:47,37 really supporting important work in the know yet. No absolutely. And 158 00:12:48,30 --> 00:12:55,27 not really golf in fact I actually bought club to go to the family this golf 159 00:12:55,72 --> 00:13:02,59 I had. It and I go to only one golf year. And that's family rescues 160 00:13:02,60 --> 00:13:05,41 golf. And actually I have 161 00:13:05,42 --> 00:13:09,73 a tremendous time and because of this it's called the scramble right because the 162 00:13:09,74 --> 00:13:16,60 bat. You know golfers and I guess Cub fans. All you 163 00:13:16,61 --> 00:13:23,44 need is one good one good stroke out on the course and you actually feel that way I 164 00:13:23,45 --> 00:13:27,49 can come back next year and we're through it you know we're going to wonder what 165 00:13:27,50 --> 00:13:34,36 are you going but but with with the fact that that one of the four 166 00:13:34,59 --> 00:13:36,58 in the four Some will have 167 00:13:36,62 --> 00:13:41,44 a good stroke and each point you move along very nicely and it's actually 168 00:13:41,71 --> 00:13:42,35 a lot of fun 169 00:13:43,01 --> 00:13:48,81 a lot of fun even for golf or. Well I think that's really great you know not to 170 00:13:48,82 --> 00:13:52,87 have the pressure because some of those some of those golf outings or some other 171 00:13:52,88 --> 00:13:57,36 competitors will I would say that I would say this is opposite of that you know. 172 00:13:58,62 --> 00:14:04,00 It's all fun driven and it's like it was saying it's there's that it's so relieving 173 00:14:04,01 --> 00:14:07,56 not to have to hit every shot you know right someone is going to add something here 174 00:14:07,57 --> 00:14:08,95 for players so it makes it 175 00:14:08,96 --> 00:14:12,93 a little bit more enjoyable or you take out the string got taurine got extra You 176 00:14:12,94 --> 00:14:17,05 got it got to you know if you're going don't don't let it go to waste so. On the 177 00:14:17,06 --> 00:14:21,34 off first go home with that I don't think from the right we're going to raffle off 178 00:14:21,35 --> 00:14:28,22 so. I'm very good food. So there's lunch and then golfing and then dinner and you 179 00:14:28,23 --> 00:14:32,13 said an auction is that one of the silent auctions where you walk around with young 180 00:14:32,14 --> 00:14:35,00 people and there is yes file an auction and then 181 00:14:35,05 --> 00:14:39,17 a small live auction as well Wow So you've got a there you must have 182 00:14:39,18 --> 00:14:42,87 a lot of people that are contributing organizations you're got some point after 183 00:14:42,88 --> 00:14:46,67 a thirty year old yes we do but always you need more and as you said there's the 184 00:14:46,68 --> 00:14:51,47 economy is so poor that people are really counting the agencies like yours are 185 00:14:51,48 --> 00:14:54,93 really counting. Is there 186 00:14:54,94 --> 00:14:57,49 a relationship that you can talk to me about just to talk 187 00:14:57,50 --> 00:15:01,30 a little bit about domestic violence and what will be supporting you when we come 188 00:15:01,31 --> 00:15:03,32 out to the golf outing is there 189 00:15:03,33 --> 00:15:08,35 a relationship that you can talk about with the economy being as poor as it is and 190 00:15:08,36 --> 00:15:13,55 how that affects domestic violence does that affect domestic violence what are you 191 00:15:13,56 --> 00:15:17,61 seeing it as far as incidents Yeah. 192 00:15:20,33 --> 00:15:25,34 Well it's hard to say I mean the economy doesn't bring it out that view I think. 193 00:15:26,90 --> 00:15:32,10 That alcoholism brings it out but there are always times where you see more summer 194 00:15:32,11 --> 00:15:36,96 months seem to bring it out more because people are outside more. And doing more 195 00:15:36,97 --> 00:15:43,29 things so you do see more calls and more incidences in the sum of money so there's 196 00:15:43,30 --> 00:15:47,81 always certain things that bring that about but yes times are harder now people are 197 00:15:47,82 --> 00:15:53,04 experiencing lower doubt you know job so are down so that can bring about harder 198 00:15:53,05 --> 00:15:58,69 times for families. So yeah I've ever been experiencing hard times right now and. 199 00:15:59,73 --> 00:16:05,73 You know we are seeing fuller shelters right now and. Harder times getting. 200 00:16:07,46 --> 00:16:14,28 Through things. Come in housing. With everything going on in 201 00:16:14,44 --> 00:16:17,27 town. But some like you said 202 00:16:17,28 --> 00:16:22,82 a moment ago that alcoholism doesn't contribute to domestic violence. 203 00:16:25,16 --> 00:16:32,08 It can bring on an episode but does not make someone an abuser. What does. 204 00:16:37,75 --> 00:16:44,38 Maybe it's one of those. You know statistically you are. Scientifically 205 00:16:44,45 --> 00:16:46,55 but I don't know if there is 206 00:16:46,56 --> 00:16:51,17 a stereotypical situation I mean there are there are certainly times when you. 207 00:16:52,78 --> 00:16:57,64 Would like to believe that it's not happening you know it is an instance where you 208 00:16:57,65 --> 00:17:00,93 could never believe that you know when you actually find out that it's happening 209 00:17:00,94 --> 00:17:05,49 and someone who was a household never would you have seen those you know 210 00:17:05,50 --> 00:17:09,80 a symptom or even like that coming so it is very difficult to say what exactly 211 00:17:09,81 --> 00:17:14,85 makes that happen I don't know I think if people knew the true cause is that it 212 00:17:14,86 --> 00:17:15,12 would be 213 00:17:15,13 --> 00:17:20,62 a little bit easier to you know to minimize your back but I cannot. Control. 214 00:17:22,10 --> 00:17:27,70 And I think to an extent. Having having. 215 00:17:29,57 --> 00:17:31,94 Having that as a as a as a as 216 00:17:31,95 --> 00:17:37,13 a an unfortunate role model in your life in early stages. 217 00:17:39,13 --> 00:17:45,94 Doesn't help that and it could actually could actually. And one of the areas that 218 00:17:45,95 --> 00:17:52,63 family rescued that that I'm very very supportive of is is his violent reduction in 219 00:17:52,64 --> 00:17:59,18 general and by and going going into the schools particularly in 220 00:17:59,22 --> 00:18:05,48 elementary schools at the lower lower grades and and working with children 221 00:18:06,35 --> 00:18:12,72 alternative means of of resolving differences and often that's 222 00:18:13,12 --> 00:18:20,08 not and often that may not be. Available to them in the home and violence is kind 223 00:18:20,09 --> 00:18:26,49 of the first resort. And so the violence prevention is the program we were having 224 00:18:26,50 --> 00:18:33,26 trouble getting the violence prevention program re re funded and Miss mistake and 225 00:18:33,27 --> 00:18:40,22 it's it's being done but not at the not at the level. That we were doing it. For 226 00:18:40,23 --> 00:18:42,87 five years ago and that and 227 00:18:42,88 --> 00:18:49,12 a lot of that in part is is also one of the impacts on the the agency in terms of 228 00:18:49,13 --> 00:18:52,74 the downturn in the economy the board has a lot of wrangling 229 00:18:52,78 --> 00:18:58,77 a lot of hand-wringing and we do. Board meetings and tonight be another one so. 230 00:19:00,81 --> 00:19:06,04 That one of the you know I don't know there's using that no one side but one of the 231 00:19:06,37 --> 00:19:11,11 Logos was break the cycle you know so if you were. If it happened to you you need 232 00:19:11,12 --> 00:19:16,97 to not pass that forward to your generation of children you know that are your own 233 00:19:16,98 --> 00:19:19,45 and so that that I think is obviously 234 00:19:19,79 --> 00:19:25,14 a huge deal so if you were exposed to it is in your younger years or you were 235 00:19:25,15 --> 00:19:32,09 a victim of it how do you come to terms with it. You know reconcile yourself to 236 00:19:32,13 --> 00:19:35,25 being OK and then move forward with your life and then be 237 00:19:35,26 --> 00:19:39,94 a good parent to you or to your kids so that you don't bring this back around and 238 00:19:39,95 --> 00:19:41,93 so that's obviously 239 00:19:41,94 --> 00:19:46,44 a great thought it's easier said I think than done but that's that would that is 240 00:19:46,45 --> 00:19:51,90 a big. Goal of the program I've heard people say that you either work it out or you 241 00:19:51,91 --> 00:19:53,94 act it out and so there's 242 00:19:53,95 --> 00:19:59,69 a big push for working it out so that you don't bring it to the next generation but 243 00:19:59,70 --> 00:20:02,90 what I think one of the things that that I'm you know as I'm listening to you one 244 00:20:02,91 --> 00:20:07,43 of the things I'm hearing is that so many of the resources to help people work it 245 00:20:07,44 --> 00:20:13,60 out are disappearing and that even yourselves who are there and expert with thirty 246 00:20:13,61 --> 00:20:18,25 years of experience and all the credibility in the world are suffering financially 247 00:20:18,63 --> 00:20:23,25 and that we really need to motivate people the thing if the grants aren't coming 248 00:20:23,26 --> 00:20:28,81 through like they used to to really motivate people as individuals to say this is 249 00:20:28,82 --> 00:20:33,38 why wait to far reaching you know that when we're talking about domestic violence 250 00:20:33,39 --> 00:20:38,36 unfortunately or not it doesn't stay at home that those. The self-esteem that the 251 00:20:38,37 --> 00:20:43,54 children develop like you said you know learning that the violence is the first the 252 00:20:43,55 --> 00:20:47,88 first call you know the first what is it requires the first recourse the first line 253 00:20:47,89 --> 00:20:52,91 of yeah the first line of reaction instead of being you know tenth down the line 254 00:20:52,92 --> 00:20:57,03 right you know I think that that we really have to think about what kind of society 255 00:20:57,04 --> 00:21:00,85 are we building ourselves towards If we're going to take away so much of the 256 00:21:00,86 --> 00:21:04,60 preventive services and then that's where as individuals that's where we come in 257 00:21:04,75 --> 00:21:10,06 right yeah right and there have been cuts and funding but I wouldn't say that we're 258 00:21:10,13 --> 00:21:15,73 suffering are our problems are strong and worth carrying on and we'll be here for 259 00:21:15,74 --> 00:21:20,00 another thirty years good so what are fortunately I'd like to say that we wouldn't 260 00:21:20,01 --> 00:21:25,90 need to be you know in like the bench really not have to be here right now we need 261 00:21:25,91 --> 00:21:29,62 to we'll be earth another thirty years what do you find when you go into the 262 00:21:29,63 --> 00:21:33,19 schools and you work with kids and you do violence prevention Have you had 263 00:21:33,20 --> 00:21:37,01 a chance over the years you've been in existence for so long I'm thinking and I'm 264 00:21:37,02 --> 00:21:40,59 going out on a limb here and asking have you it doesn't have to be like 265 00:21:40,60 --> 00:21:43,09 a research based or anything but you get 266 00:21:43,10 --> 00:21:48,47 a sense for the kids who have gone through preventative kinds of programs how do 267 00:21:48,48 --> 00:21:53,75 they turn out like say in grammar school or in high school or after any feedback 268 00:21:53,76 --> 00:21:59,99 for us. I wouldn't know that without having looking at our statistics and we didn't 269 00:22:00,00 --> 00:22:06,98 keep statistics on that. But I haven't worked in that program and so I went and 270 00:22:07,51 --> 00:22:12,45 I wouldn't want to say anything and accurate not having actually worked in that 271 00:22:12,46 --> 00:22:18,93 program but we do we keep the author nation on that. The feedback has always been 272 00:22:19,49 --> 00:22:25,99 very positive from from from those in the trenches the teachers and 273 00:22:26,31 --> 00:22:26,83 it is 274 00:22:26,87 --> 00:22:31,49 a difficult thing to track Oh sure it is very difficult to track I think it would 275 00:22:31,50 --> 00:22:37,26 require resources that we've never had. But the feedback of the principals and. 276 00:22:37,32 --> 00:22:44,20 Teachers one this in their in their in their schools and family rescue is very 277 00:22:44,21 --> 00:22:48,34 highly regarded. Excellent so we have 278 00:22:48,35 --> 00:22:52,43 a few more minutes and I know that we want to go over one at least once again the 279 00:22:52,76 --> 00:22:57,02 information the pertinent information about the golf outing thing like that with 280 00:22:57,06 --> 00:23:02,82 taking you through it thank you very much and I will do this. It is again an Indian 281 00:23:02,83 --> 00:23:09,22 Lakes resort and the aunt is in Bloomingdale Illinois and. One o'clock start 282 00:23:09,43 --> 00:23:13,76 there's lunch to get people before that I believe you can arrive as early as eleven 283 00:23:13,77 --> 00:23:20,12 thirty and it's August twenty sixth and. There is information on the family rescue 284 00:23:20,13 --> 00:23:25,08 website there are foursomes where you pick You can buy just to come as for players 285 00:23:25,61 --> 00:23:29,16 there are still sponsorships which I brought up before but we'll keep harping on 286 00:23:29,17 --> 00:23:29,32 that 287 00:23:29,33 --> 00:23:33,87 a little bit hurting but effective if it can stir up anybody to want to be involved 288 00:23:34,61 --> 00:23:39,10 please do so we'd love to have more people there the golf is 289 00:23:39,11 --> 00:23:44,61 a scramble for me at with. Everybody starting at one o'clock as shotguns are they 290 00:23:44,62 --> 00:23:50,47 call that and afterwards are dinner and you know cocktails and 291 00:23:50,48 --> 00:23:54,52 a silent auction with a few live auction items as well and it's really 292 00:23:54,53 --> 00:24:00,95 a great time if you have people from work or from your office from. An 293 00:24:00,96 --> 00:24:06,63 organization that is looking to be part of something that you can look at and say 294 00:24:06,64 --> 00:24:10,60 geez this this this is money well spent this is this is people work hard they're 295 00:24:10,61 --> 00:24:12,40 really doing something that matters then this is 296 00:24:12,41 --> 00:24:19,12 a good spot for you to do something like that I hope I hope that either the of this 297 00:24:19,24 --> 00:24:25,30 taking or this airing of this broadcast that we get some. Added interest and we are 298 00:24:25,31 --> 00:24:29,19 grateful to the people who have already been involved in have been involved in the 299 00:24:29,20 --> 00:24:33,57 past to people go to your phone and I want to add one of the you know 300 00:24:33,58 --> 00:24:36,75 a lot of we're going to be told because they're just about the organization there 301 00:24:36,76 --> 00:24:36,78 are 302 00:24:36,79 --> 00:24:41,70 a lot of things and it isn't you know not all of it is very. Happy I mean there are 303 00:24:41,74 --> 00:24:42,12 there does 304 00:24:42,13 --> 00:24:47,51 a very real world situations there are some Sixten success stories posted on the 305 00:24:47,52 --> 00:24:50,78 Web site of people have gone through the program but there's the worry prior to 306 00:24:50,79 --> 00:24:53,90 going through it is not it's not it's not just 307 00:24:53,96 --> 00:25:00,73 a cheerful situation but they were strong enough to make me take you know 308 00:25:00,74 --> 00:25:04,72 control of their situation change it make it better and they they were able to do 309 00:25:04,73 --> 00:25:09,19 it and if it did and I think it gives people other people the desire and hope to do 310 00:25:09,20 --> 00:25:11,68 that but it's not necessarily just 311 00:25:11,99 --> 00:25:15,23 a feel good when you go read this if you have to know that there are people out 312 00:25:15,24 --> 00:25:21,26 there and there's certainly more they are now. Currently that need help and so just 313 00:25:21,27 --> 00:25:23,94 find out something about the site I think just learning about the charity 314 00:25:24,21 --> 00:25:25,47 regardless of whether you get involved in 315 00:25:25,48 --> 00:25:30,03 a golf tournament or some other function that comes up during the year it will make 316 00:25:30,04 --> 00:25:30,59 you feel like 317 00:25:30,60 --> 00:25:35,05 a this needs of the Don it's probably one of the more important and in my opinion 318 00:25:35,06 --> 00:25:40,57 social issues you know nationwide in general the people's families are strong if 319 00:25:40,58 --> 00:25:41,14 they grow up in 320 00:25:41,15 --> 00:25:44,42 a good as you know an environment where they feel like they can have success or 321 00:25:44,43 --> 00:25:48,33 feel safe their life will probably be better than someone who comes out of 322 00:25:48,34 --> 00:25:54,22 a situation that is different than that so. I want to do that and I think you will 323 00:25:54,23 --> 00:25:58,86 be. Happily not happily but I guess it would make 324 00:25:58,87 --> 00:26:00,37 a little bit of an eye opening and him 325 00:26:00,38 --> 00:26:06,77 a spur you to you know do something going forward excellent It's very gratifying 326 00:26:06,86 --> 00:26:10,20 being involved and with us and it is a Friday night it is 327 00:26:10,21 --> 00:26:14,26 a Friday Yes I'm sorry so you can twist some arms and work to get out 328 00:26:14,27 --> 00:26:18,66 a little early which I'm sure you'd be able to do if you were asked. Or write or. 329 00:26:20,05 --> 00:26:25,58 Something I'm going to do that's right I'm sending it out and if it. Got to you got 330 00:26:25,59 --> 00:26:25,75 about 331 00:26:25,76 --> 00:26:34,02 a month that I have to plan that. Varies 332 00:26:34,03 --> 00:26:34,10 in 333 00:26:34,11 --> 00:26:39,69 a good cause and you. Know that you got it that you know it would be there alone should 334 00:26:39,70 --> 00:26:44,72 be enough to let someone like you let you leave absolutely let's hope so it's been 335 00:26:44,73 --> 00:26:47,98 really great talking with the three of you I thank you so much for being our guest 336 00:26:47,99 --> 00:26:48,83 today thanks very I have 337 00:26:48,84 --> 00:26:53,52 a bond golf outing I hope you get lots and lots of people and then behalf of 338 00:26:53,56 --> 00:26:58,28 everybody really thanks for what you do with family rescued because I agree with 339 00:26:58,29 --> 00:27:03,08 what you said that you know it's one person one family one community one you know 340 00:27:03,09 --> 00:27:07,10 neighborhood one state it's really when you touch one life there's 341 00:27:07,11 --> 00:27:09,28 a tremendous ripple effect so thanks 342 00:27:09,29 --> 00:27:13,35 a lot and thank you thank you I'd like to thank my guest for sure Ruben and Dave 343 00:27:13,36 --> 00:27:16,06 for having joined us you've been watching can T.V. 344 00:27:16,10 --> 00:27:17,01 Community form 345 00:27:17,05 --> 00:27:21,66 a community service of can do me turn into community farm every Saturday at eight 346 00:27:21,67 --> 00:27:26,64 thirty pm here on can T V twenty one and getting there thank you for joining us.